All your problems are just thoughts.
And thoughts are not a problem.
– Jeff Foster
And what someone thinks of you is just a thought too.
We care far too much what people think of us. Our entire culture is based around being liked and popular. We are constantly looking for validation and approval from others that our authentic voice gets lost in the noise. This greatly affects our confidence, self-esteem and self-value.
I cared way to deeply what people thought of me and I was greatly affected by what people thought of me.
This left me feeling bad about myself and unstable with my emotions. I hated feeling ‘unapproved’ by another, so I bent over backwards to get people to like me. When people didn’t like me, I blamed myself. There must be something wrong with me that’s why they don’t like me. This only perpetuated my self-hatred and low self-esteem.
I learned that if I only cared about another’s thoughts about me, then when will I learn to care about my own thoughts of me? The image I had of myself was learned through another’s image of me. My self image was constantly changing based on what people were thinking or not thinking about me.
This is no way to have a healthy, positive and stable relationship with yourself.
In this video I share the realization and shift that helped me to stop giving sh*t what people think of me:
When we care what people think of us – we live in fear. Fear of someone’s thoughts of us.
We aren’t even fearing the person just their thoughts. We are scared of a thought – a thought only has the potential to hurt when we allow it. When we care about what people think of us, we are at the mercy of their thinking – which doesn’t feel good.
Write it out:
- Why do I make what people think of me my business?
- Why am I trying to mold myself into a person based upon other’s opinions?
- How does this feel?
You can answer the questions below if you’d like. I would love to know your thoughts.
Be patient. Be gentle. Be kind.