In the past I have often found myself asking that question. Can style and spirituality mix? To some it maybe an obvious answer, but for me this question was very difficult to answer. The reason? My my sense of style didn’t fit into my perception of what is spiritual.
I have always associated spirituality with wise and enlightened ones who lived in recluse from the world. I even considered doing that myself at one point in time. I really thought I’d become a buddhist monk who lived in the Himalayas. That idea quickly changed, when I realized that I could make a bigger impact by living in this crazy materialistic world, while knowing that I am not of this world.
I struggled to answer this question and find my sense of self regarding style because I wrote a fashion blog. This is something that began as a creative outlet back in 2012 when I was looking for a way to express myself. I have always loved dressing well and putting outfits together. I used to religiously do it in high school, and I got back into after graduating college. I wrote this fashion blog on and off over the course of two years. It quickly became an online diary of my life, as I documented what I wore. However, something never felt right. I felt I couldn’t express myself fully. I had this deep spiritual side to me that wasn’t able to come through because I was writing a blog that focused more on the material side of life. I wanted to talk about the stuff that really mattered to me and what I felt extremely passionate about: self actualization.
I started to stray away from the fashion blog and began to really focus on writing daily. Then, one day I got the idea to start a blog on which I could share my writing. This is where this website, you are reading right now was born (at that time it was called something different).
As I began writing more and more, I started to care less and less about documenting my clothes and what I was wearing. When I was writing the fashion blog, I always felt not good enough. I would criticize my body, my style and how I looked. It was not healthy and I knew it. I wanted to stop hating on myself and I decided the best thing for me was to walk away from it and only blog when I really felt like it, as a way to document my life.
However, I still loved clothes and dressing well! Since I was really into spirituality and was creating spiritually based content, I couldn’t be stylish. This mind trip affected my outlook on the material world, and I stopped doing a lot of things that I once loved to do: wearing makeup, styling outfits, painting my nails, being girly, taking care of my physical body (because after all I am not this body, right?) etc. Yeah, it got that bad. I was ready to renounce this material world and spend my life in meditation because that is the way I thought I could become self-actualized. Although, I thought that’s what I wanted to do, it never felt right, my intuition was telling me something different: be yourself, Kajal, express who you are in all ways, always!
It took me a very long time to actually listen to my intuitive guidance and only then, I made peace with who I was: a spiritual being who loved the humanistic side of Life, and it was completely okay to live this way.
In this video, I share how I overcome my limited perception of what I thought was spiritual when it comes to style:
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Be patient. Be gentle. Be kind.