Sometime ago I was sitting in meditation when an image of my three year old self popped into my mind. I was confused yet calm as I looked at her. She was happy, full of life and totally in her innocence. I imagined myself picking her up and giving her a big fat kiss and a tight hug. All I wanted to do was love her because she was full of light, love and cuteness! I wanted to keep her Truth intact and tell her how incredibly magnificent she is.
A few moments after, this realization came: Why don’t I treat the 25 year old me like that? The only difference is that I am older now, but the Spirit is the same. As a kid and up until recently, I’ve never had a good relationship with myself. I hated myself, I wish I could die, I wish I could be someone else because ‘being me’ was just too miserable. I’ve always had a very loud inner critic whom I call ‘Gazel’. Its as if though she only speaks to me with a megaphone. For a very long time, I identified with her and confided in her because I thought she was always right about me.
However, when I began to question my identity and who I really am, I quickly realized that we never speak to children the way we often speak to ourselves or even our friends. Then, why do we speak to ourselves in such a negatively charged way? It’s because thats all we know. It’s all that we are used to and it’s up to us to change that.
By beginning to question what your inner critic or Ego tells you and the way it talks to you, you’ll begin to understand that often times it doesn’t have anything nice to say to you. It’s always telling you how you are not enough, not pretty, fat, too this or too that. The Ego/Inner Critic always speaks to us in an unloving way, because it is not Love and love has no opposite.
Love is the only energy in the world that doesn’t demand anything of us, and if it does then, it is not love. It is fear disguised as love.
In today’s video I share a quick and effective way to build a better relationship with yourself:
+ By nurturing ourselves as we hold that image of our three year old, we can begin to extend self-compassion and self-love to the person we are today.
+ The only relationship that matters is the relationship you have with yourself. All other relationships you have are just a mirror of the relationship with yourself.
+ Gently, calmly and patiently let go of feelings that are not serving you. Remember just by taking a small loving step today, we create a better love infused tomorrow.
Tell me, what do you love about the three old you and how can you nurture her?