A while back I encountered a situation where I felt I was being judged by someone I was talking to. My immediate reaction was to go inward within myself as a protection mechanism, but I felt the comments of this person penetrate right through my wall of protection. Even much time after the incident, the comments were still fresh to me and I began to feel really tense and worried because of what had been said to me.
Why did they judge me, why did I feel judged, where is the judgement stemming from? These are the questions I started asking myself. Below is the response that came through for me.
Judgement is when you are trying to control an outcome in your favor by labeling or identifying something or someone to your definition of good or bad. It has nothing to do with you, but the person who is doing the judging. They are essentially judging themselves into judging something or someone purely based on a set criteria of expectations they have manipulated to rig the situation in their favor. *Note* This is not being done consciously, rather an unconscious need to protect themselves.
It is based on this desire to feel worthy because by making someone or something else inferior, it gives a reason as to why we are good enough or better. Its an act of self sabotage because we are choosing to see ourselves in a way that may be favorable at that given point in time. However, its a cover-up to a deeply rooted issue that we’ve imprinted onto our being. These issues usually have to do with not feeling good enough, deserving or worthy.
How you identify with judgement is how you choose to deal with it. You give it life purely based on the thoughts you choose to attach to it. It comes to life then through the emotions those thoughts birth.
Then you convince yourself that it is you that is the problem. You attack yourself and begin an internal dialogue of why its there and why it should be a fact. When you feel judged, you are identifying with a part of you, that you, that has also judged. So it creates a perfect condition to amplify those emotions. They flourish and become the story you tell yourself all the time.
Anytime a feeling of ‘being judged’ arises in you. Letting go of the ‘feeling judged’ thought can save you a lot misery because when you actively begin to monitor what thoughts you want to bring to life, then you can choose how you want to feel.
The person doing the judging is your teacher allowing you to see what parts of yourself you need to send love and compassion to.